My husband and I married in October 2010. I was on birth control for about 5 months, but went off due to it making me non-stop emotional.  For the next two years our birth control method was going “Catholic style”, which basically meant not having sex between days 11 and 18 of my cycle.  We were so glad that it had “worked” and that we didn’t have any surprises along the way.

In August 2012 we decided to start trying for kids.  At this point for us it meant taking prenatal vitamins and doing the deed between days 11 and 18.  After 6 months of trying without any luck, we decided to try a little harder.  I started using an ovulation kit, taking my basal body temperature, not drinking coffee, and giving up my casual wine drinking.  Another 2 months went by without any luck of getting pregnant. At this same time 4 of my friends had gotten pregnant. I was ecstatic for them, but I was also very envious of their joy.

In May 2013, I went in for my annual pap and decided to ask my obgyn about the next steps. She suggested that I get 3 blood tests and my husband get a sperm analysis.  That day she also gave me an ultrasound since it happened to be my ovulation day so she could see my follicles.  Everything looked great for us! My follicles were large enough to ovulate, my blood work looked perfect, and my husband’s sperm analysis came back great. It was frustrating to know that we were healthy, fit, and everything seemed to be functioning normally, yet we still could not get pregnant.

We tried a few more months without any luck.  Each month it was heartbreaking to get a negative test.  No one around me really understood the pain that I was feeling. This month my husband and I decided to take the next step.  We called to make another appointment with my obgyn, only to find out that she moved.  We live in a smaller town and there are no other fertility specialists, so we made an appointment with a different obgyn to talk about our next course of action.  We will see how that appointment goes next month.